Surprising Ways Your Behaviors Might Be Sabotaging Your Hormones

“Growth isn't only about pushing upwards; it's also about digesting, integrating, and enjoying life.” - Someone

Throughout history women have faced rape, denigration and devaluation, suppression of creativity and independence, suppression of expression, betrayal by other women, including their own mothers, betrayal and abandonment by men, and health decline during pregnancy, sometimes resulting in death giving birth. The memories of all these traumas are recorded in the woman's energetic field and in organs like the womb. The feminine energy has been stuck in the trauma response of rejection of itself.

What causes hormonal imbalance in women is often the subconscious belief that “it’s not worth being a woman” due to past-life traumas related to womanhood leading them to an unconscious rejection of their femininity, manifesting as an overemphasis on masculine energy at the expense of feminine energy. These traumas also tend to result in an unconscious resentment towards men. Such imbalances can affect physical and emotional health, as well as professional and personal relationships.

There are behaviors that we, as women, exhibit that we might never have considered masculine. This often stems from a lack of education in the art of femininity, as teenagers today aren't mentored on it as they were in the past. In earlier times, both men and women underwent rites of passage into womanhood and manhood.

Another reason women may not receive femininity from their mothers is due to judging them or because their mothers have conflictive relationships with their husbands, preventing daughters from receiving "permission" from their fathers to integrate their mothers' femininity. I'm here to lift the veil and provide insights into some unintentionally masculine behaviors you might be displaying, which could be impacting your hormones.

Masculine and Feminine Energies

To understand masculine behaviors, let’s first define masculine and feminine traits. Masculine energy is characterized by independence, confidence, self-reliance, and self-sufficiency. It encompasses qualities such as detachment, self-sacrifice, decision-making, and taking action. Attributes like competitiveness, protection, and giving are also symbolic of masculine energy. Additionally, it includes being mental and analytical, with a focus on problem-solving, being goal-oriented, discerning, assertive, and setting boundaries.

Feminine energy embodies feelings of safety, trust, support, and reassurance. It is intuitive, inspired, and creative, characterized by joy, optimism, an appreciation for beauty, patience, nurturing, empathy, compassion, collaboration, emotional expression, persuasion, receptiveness, and multitasking.

Productivity and Relaxation:

You have a never-ending to-do list. You feel a sense of burnout or exhaustion from constantly pushing yourself

You find yourself constantly busy, caught in a hectic lifestyle, and you can easily list 50 reasons why you can't relax. However, this frenetic pace is a life you've constructed to justify your feelings of overwhelm. When you believe you don't have enough time, it's truly a manifestation of feeling overwhelmed. This stems from the underlying belief that "I must do everything at once."

Many women today, when overly driven by their masculine energy, experience a sense of overwhelming neurosis. It manifests as a constant urge to "do more" and take on additional responsibilities, rather than allowing themselves to relax and recharge. If you find yourself constantly thinking “I don't have enough time. I have so much to do,” that’s a clear sign you have gone out of balance.

Women deeply immersed in their masculine energy have learned to work tirelessly, often proclaiming, “I love working.” This is because they believe their worth is tied to their productivity, feeling fulfilled when they work long hours, sometimes up to 14 hours a day. They measure their value by their productivity, equating more work with greater fulfillment. When they rest, they feel they are wasting time and experience guilt over not being productive. They believe their days have to be 100% productive.

You say you want to call in a man but also claim you don't have time to date. This stems from seeing dating as a waste of time compared to being productive. However, true productivity involves doing the right next thing to achieve your goals and well-being. Sometimes, resting and recharging are exactly what's needed for your well-being. Growth isn't only about pushing upwards; it's also about digesting, integrating, and enjoying life.

You believe life is a struggle

You believe you have to earn anything you want in life, ie everything requires hard work. You overthink and make things more complex than they need to be. Everything requires energy but whether that energy is effortless or not is what makes the difference.

Furthermore, when we want to hustle, it often comes from a lack of faith. I don't believe that it is done so I think I need to work harder to make sure that it's done. I need to force it. Use power instead of force. Decide what your daily actions are going to be in your business every day and stop there. Don’t force it. Don’t hustle. Have faith. Make sure that you are showing up as a vibrational match to the version of you that has all the business success and surrender and trust.

Goal-Orientation, Problem-solving and Independence

You don’t enjoy the present moment. You are focused on the goal and how long it will take to become more feminine

When you're in your feminine energy, you enjoy the journey and remain unconcerned about how long it takes to reach your destination. 

Consider this scenario: you're on a date, and the man isn't what you expected. Your instinct might be to cut the date short to avoid wasting time on someone who isn't right for you. Instead, aim to enjoy a meaningful, heart-to-heart conversation with any person you meet. It's never a waste of time and serves as great preparation for when the right man does come along. Without practice, these enriching life skills won't suddenly appear. Remember, your entire life is a practice; it's a journey.

“I don’t need help. I can do it myself. I don’t need a man. I can't depend on others, I have to do it myself”

Estrogen production increases when you depend on someone's guidance and help. If you're a single woman you tend to be over your male side because you're independent. When you give up dating or intimate relationships, you kill a part of you. You need to find your feminine side that needs a man to feel romance, to feel vulnerable, to share your intimate secrets with, to cry with, to feel his support because you're not so strong all the time and you need help in your life.

Another sign of masculinity is that you don't want to spend money on yourself, joy, fun or growth. You’re a DIY woman. You’d rather read a book than hiring a coach. However, the biggest transformation doesn’t come from the coach or the program but from you saying “I deserve and allow support.”

You are too picky. You get lost in comparing

“I have to do it myself”. “Nobody can do it as good as me” and when you look into the dating realm, the way it shows up is “he's not good enough”. When you find yourself being overly picky, it often means you're operating from your male energy. This mode is characterized by the drive to solve problems, which involves scrutinizing options closely. Consequently, you become excessively analytical and judgmental, focusing on negatives rather than positives.

One underlying reason could be unresolved judgments directed at your father, the primary masculine figure in your life. If you're still holding judgments against him, no man will seem good enough for you. This mindset not only traps you in problem-solving mode but also fosters pessimism and harsh judgment.

Trust and Flow

You find it impossible to trust the organic unfolding of your life path

You have little faith that you are being taken care of by a force greater than yourself. Feminine energy is full surrender and faith or knowing in the divine.

You struggle to trust your partner’s leadership

When women carry the memory of rape and unconsciously despise men, they may default to a mothering energy which makes them feel superior to men. In the unconscious mind, the mother archetype holds significant power. Deep down, men may fear women as they intrinsically remind them of their dominant mother figure.

This dynamic may lead you to view him as incapable, feeling compelled to make all the decisions and dictate his actions. While you assume the leadership role, it challenges the natural dynamic where the feminine principle follows and the masculine principle guides and serves. Ideally, the masculine provides direction and support, paving the way for the feminine to flourish.

Overly mental

You just consume information but don’t put it into practice

You read many books without becoming the books or embodying them. You mentally know a lot, but experience nothing. You find yourself taking a lot of information but not applying it at all.

What you don't understand is that the more you learn and the heavier your mental energy gets in a short period of time, the less you embody. You need to turn your heavy mental body off for small moments at a time so you can access your body and that's the key to integrating your feminine energy. This doesn’t mean you need to stop reading books. What you need to make sure is that you embody what you read. The masculine woman reads but doesn’t embody what she reads.

Self-Worth and Relationships

You put too much emphasis on sex. You want to have sex first then open up and fall in love

The childhood experience of having an absent father can lead you to a belief of unworthiness and the need to constantly please others to feel deserving of love. This can form the belief that love must be earned, often through pleasing men sexually, because by being sexual, you will get a man's attention which translates to feelings of worthiness and deservingness.

As a result, some women become addicted to pleasing men through sex. This early trauma can cause a woman to overemphasize sex and physical appearance, leading her to become attracted to men sexually right away and focus on physical relationships rather than emotional connections. The natural progression should involve opening up emotionally and forming a deep connection before engaging in physical intimacy.

You over give to earn love

If you're on your male side, you're a good giver. But you give to get. Every time you're giving to get, you're trying to change somebody. However, all you are getting is becoming resentful. Giving too much and feeling he is unfair makes you become resentful. Resentment comes up from comparing yourself with your partner.

When you over give, you will not feel reciprocated therefore you will feel like a victim, but behind a victim, there is a perpetrator. By giving more than the other person can offer you, you are indebting them, and this is a form of aggression. Giving more does not mean loving more. The one who truly loves is the one who gives just what the other can take without losing their dignity. However, we are heavily conditioned by religion, which exalts the giver.

Receiving and Connection & Communication

You don’t know how to receive

When you are on your male side, if you receive something, you immediately give something back because you think you need to give something in return so it becomes a transaction.

You don't take time to enjoy what you receive. Ask yourself: What do I currently have in my life that I desperately wanted before but am not truly enjoying now? For example, I desperately wanted to live on my own, without house sharing, but when I moved into my own flat, I never paused to enjoy it and immediately moved on to the next goal.

You tend to be aggressive or confrontational in your communication style

When masculine energy dominates, it may manifest as aggression in your communication and interactions. To rebalance and reconnect with your innate feminine energy and the essence of love, you must embrace your maternal aspects and seek a deeper connection with your mother.

You struggle to connect with other women. You have more male friends than female friends. Other women betray you

A woman embodying masculine energy often becomes highly competitive, striving relentlessly for her father's attention. This drive can lead her to clash with other women, whom she perceives as intruders or threats to her status and prominence. If you experience betrayal by other women, your external world may be showing you that you aren’t getting along with feminine energy.

Did you identify yourself in any of them?